Put Forth The Effort

In the recent weeks, I have discovered that I have been putting my efforts in life, in the wrong places. People who I shouldn't give so much attention to, had been getting it, and I had not been putting myself first (shocker). That is something that I have always been known to do since I was little, is not put myself first and ALWAYS worry about other people way too much. There are a handful of things that have sparked me to realize that this change needed to be made, and I have tried lots of different things to figure out what works for me and what doesn't. First and foremost, do not put more effort into relationships, than the other person in the relationship. That goes for friendships as well, which is where I have realized I have been going all wrong. There are friendships that I put about 90% of the effort into keeping in touch and getting together, but the other person puts in about 10% of effort in. The problem with that, is friendships, along with relationships, are a two way street. It can't be one sided or else it will fall apart once the person taking on the entire relationships realizes it. How I have decided to change this in my life, is to distance myself from friendships where I realized I am putting in much more effort than I thought the other person was to keep in touch. It has definitely proven that I was putting in much more to keep in touch, because we either rarely talk, or it has forced the other person to get ahold of me. So I have kept in mind and know now, which friendships I should give me effort to. As for myself, I have recently started doing more things for myself, and have ironically found out more about myself. I know that is super cliche, especially for someone my age to say. Being 23 and finding yourself, is basically the title of that chapter in the book of life. But I am more than ok with it happening now because I am able to do it without being dependent on other people. I know plenty of people who have become completely dependent on other people, which is not what this time in our lives is about. This is the time where we can finally figure out who we are and what we like. Going through this journey, I have realized that I like being in bed by 10:30, waking up at 7:00 in the morning, and working out daily (it helps me decompress. Gardening and flowers are something that comfort me, which explains my newest addition, my little baby succulents now sitting in front of my window. I am more than content being on my own, in fact I enjoy it most of the time. This is finally the time in my life where I have realized that I am completely content with being single. Yes, I was always that girl who needed a guy in my life, and went through lots of different frogs over the years. So now, I am waiting for my Prince Charming, but not constantly searching for a guy who will semi fit the mold, instead of just being patient and coming across someone who completely fits the mold. This goes hand in hand with being independent and not having to rely on another person. I know people who definitely have a dependency on guys, and once one doesn't work out, they are moving right on to the next guy. Instead of realizing that even though they might want a guy, they do not need a guy. They will survive and be perfectly ok without a guy in their life. Some other things I have been focusing on more now, are my health since I have discovered health problems, and making sure I am the healthiest person I can be, physically and mentally. Here below, are my new babies!

Hello Gluten Free!

Recently my mom found out that she is gluten free, aka I am now gluten free. I have now not eaten gluten for so long, that when I do eat it, I feel sick. But good news for all of you gluten free people out there, all of my posts will now be gluten free! Wooooo! 

One of my best friends is in town, and is also gluten free, so I had to show her one of my favorite vegan places which also is mostly gluten free. Canteen is the best if you want something healthy and fresh. I get the same thing literally every time I go there. To eat is always a parfait, which has granola, fresh fruit and cashew cream. This will seriously fill you up on its own. My go to smoothie there is the apple ginger greens, which has exactly that in it. If I could drink it everyday I would. But I highly recommend anything and everything on the menu. 

After breakfast, I wanted to show her and our moms (they were with us) Portland nursery to get some succulents. I have been wanting to jump on the bandwagon and get succulents for a while now, so I got three. I will do another post to talk more about my new babies. 

Later in the day, my mom and I decided to go into Lake Oswego to go to Kyra's Bake Shop. This bakery only makes gluten free dessets and she won Cupcake Wars, so you know you have to try one cupcake. But I was a rebel and got three cupcakes which included, strawberry cream, citrus cloud, and a pumpkin spice latte cupcake. There was no way I could pass up the pumpkin spice cupcake, being that I am obsessed with pumpkins and pumpkin spice. This cupcake could not be made any better, it was fluffy and not dense, which tends to happen with gluten free dessets. I highly recommend a stop here even if you do eat gluten. 

Plus, it is finally going to start consistency feeling like fall here in Portland. So everything from here out will be fall!